A Letter Beyond Its Time
The small, personal letter of Paul to Philemon might at first seem insignificant compared to the doctrinal weight of Romans or the cosmic Christology of Colossians. Yet, nestled within its twenty-five verses is a timeless message of reconciliation. This short epistle is not merely about a runaway slave returning to his master; it is about the transforming power of the gospel, Christian acceptance, and forgiveness that restores broken relationships. Paul’s heartfelt appeal to Philemon stands as a guide for the church today, revealing how believers are to embody Christ’s ministry of reconciliation in their communities.
This reflection explores the church’s subjective approach to reconciliation as seen through Philemon’s role as a reconciler. It focuses on two central aspects: reconciliation through Christian acceptance and reconciliation through Christian forgiveness—two virtues deeply rooted in the cross of Christ and indispensable to the unity of the church.
Guide to Reconciliation by Christian Acceptance
Paul’s request in Philemon 1:17—“So if you consider me your partner, receive him as you would receive me”—is more than a simple call for hospitality. The verb Paul uses, προσλαβοῦ (proslabou, “receive” or “welcome”), echoes his exhortation in Romans 14:1 and 15:7 where believers are called to accept one another as Christ accepted them. Paul’s appeal points not to Onesimus’ social status as a freed slave, but to his new identity in Christ, transformed from spiritual slavery to sin into a beloved brother in the Lord.
Philemon’s character, described earlier in the letter as one marked by faith and love toward the saints (Phlm. 1:4–7), provides the basis for Paul’s confidence in Philemon’s acceptance. As Pao observes, Paul’s identification of Onesimus as “my own heart” (Colossians and Philemon, 496) pressed Philemon to embrace Onesimus not as a former slave but as a brother in Christ.
The act of Christian acceptance requires believers to look beyond prejudice and past failures. Miroslav Volf insightfully notes that disputes and divisions can be healed only when believers cultivate the will and spirit of Christ to accept one another in truth. Paul’s appeal highlights that Philemon’s acceptance is ultimately driven by God’s will and by his shared partnership in the gospel.
As Marsh points out, believers are called to be ambassadors of reconciliation, but the real reconciling work is God’s initiative. Therefore, acceptance is not tolerance; it is full inclusion into fellowship, celebrating the transformed heart of the guilty person as a testimony to God’s grace.
Guide to Reconciliation by Christian Forgiveness
Equally central in the letter is Philemon’s role in practicing forgiveness. Paul appeals to him not to act from compulsion but from love, asking him to forgive Onesimus and restore him as a beloved brother (Phlm. 1:16). This forgiveness, rooted in the grace Philemon himself had received in Christ, reflects the very nature of the gospel.
L. Gregory Jones emphasizes that forgiveness is not mere words but is deeply rooted in communion with God and His people (Embodying Forgiveness, 5). Through forgiveness, Philemon’s faith and love become tangible expressions of Christ’s reconciling power. As Lundberg observes, forgiveness transforms conflicts into communion with God, revealing that grace overshadows justice and repentance when reconciliation is pursued (From Conflict to Communion, 301).
Forgiveness is not optional—it flows from the divine grace initiated by God Himself. Anthony Bash rightly stresses that forgiveness, as a theology, is inseparable from God’s communicable nature, calling believers to reflect Christ’s sacrificial love (Forgiveness: A Theology, 98–100). Likewise, Hammond argues that forgiveness liberates believers from bitterness, anger, and division, fostering healing and unity within the body of Christ (Forgiving Others, 13–17).
Philemon’s forgiveness of Onesimus would not only restore their relationship but also serve as a powerful testimony to the watching church. As Carnegie Samuel Calian reminds us, Christian faith itself can be understood as forgiveness (Christian Faith as Forgiveness, 442). Forgiveness builds a safe space where individuals can confront failure, seek restoration, and grow in their faith.
Reconciliation in the Church Today
Philemon’s example of acceptance and forgiveness continues to speak prophetically into the church today. In a world marked by divisions—ethnic, social, and personal—the gospel calls us to reconciliation grounded in God’s grace. Pachuau emphasizes that reconciliation even transcends ethnic barriers, uniting the community in Christ (Ethnic Identity and the Gospel of Reconciliation, 11, 53). Paul’s appeal reminds believers that reconciliation is not optional but is the visible demonstration of the gospel.
The task of the church, then, is to create a community where acceptance and forgiveness are lived out, not in theory but in daily practice. Without grace, forgiveness, and acceptance, reconciliation is impossible. But with them, the church becomes a living testimony of God’s reconciling love through Christ.
A Call to Reconcile in Christ
The Book of Philemon reminds us that reconciliation is not merely about resolving conflicts; it is about embodying the very gospel we profess. Philemon’s challenge is our challenge: Will we accept those whom the world rejects? Will we forgive those who have wronged us, as Christ has forgiven us?
The heart of reconciliation is not found in obligation but in grace freely given. The reconciler’s role is to accept and forgive as Christ accepted and forgave us. This is the radical calling of the gospel—unity in the body of Christ through love that conquers division.
So the question remains: If Philemon could embrace Onesimus as a brother, can we, too, embrace those who have wronged us? And if Christ has reconciled us to God, will we not also reconcile with one another, so that the church might shine as the true household of faith and the world may see the power of the cross at work today?
Jonathan Samuel Konala Mtech.,MTh
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